Do you really want to live forever ?
Many people want a real love. But what does it mean? There are many ways of love and they can guide you to be alive forever, once the person that has this feeling can keep you in her mind forever. Firstly, it is clear that we can find many ways of love. Parents and their children, husbands and wives, friends and more friends.
It is interesting to start talking about the most widely spoken form of love: the carnal love between men and women. But ultimately, what makes a person fall in love with another?
Men give more value to beauty and youth - and women are more concerned with the socioeconomic status of the partner (yes, this includes cash).Personal history, family values, community, relations that ever lived, all help to shape what you expect of people - especially those with whom you want to have some kind of loving relationship. Some people claim that nature has created three brain mechanisms that control love in the humans: lust, passion / romance and connection. This is very useful for those who wants to know in which steps his/her relationship is.
Get marriage. Live together. Babies. Everything is good - but the passion will subside. However, the couple has to believe this is not the end. There are many recommendations to make a relationship work. Have a good mood, do not fight over silly things ... all this works!But only if you adopted the correct posture - which is not always the most obvious.
While it is true that jealousy deteriorates any kind of relationship, because it is a feeling that we can not control, we can make it pleasant. As for the man is very expensive to raise the children of another man, he feels more jealous of sexual infidelity. But for the woman would not do much difference if the man sperm to distribute just the girls there.here, the big threat is the emotional involvement, which endangers the protection and care that the man gives her and the children.
Besides the jealousy, we believe that children can strengthen the relationship, more than jealous can deteriorates other ones.It is often said that it is very difficulty to understand parents and at the same time children. On your children you can see something bad that you always do, and it makes you feel angry. A lot of questions that maybe you dont know the answer, can be asked for you if you'll become a mother/father. And you will have to be okay with this. Besides that, your children may have different interests principally when the children become teenager. So, that's the reason why parents become nervous and stressed to raise their children. Most of them fears to do something wrong, and instead of telling them off, they end up fighting with them. All this contributes even more to end the relationship between the parents themselves, which often leads to the separation.
In conclusion, we think that if you really want to live a real life, you will have to live a real love, be it between parents and children, friends, or husband and wife. And research proves: life continues, necessarily, after the breakup, even how bad it is ending. So, would not it be really interesting to try to live this great love at all ?
If you want to know more...
A psychologist called Laurence Steinberg of Temple University made a book mention the most basic principles to a good education to your children. It's helping the parents a lot.
1. What you do matters.
“Tell yourself about every day. How you treat and respond to your child should come from a knowledgeable, deliberate sense of what you want to accomplish. Always ask yourself: What effect will my decision have on my child?”
2. You cannot be too loving.
“When it comes to genuine expressions of warmth and affection, you cannot love your child too much. It is simply not possible to spoil a child with love. What we often think of as the product of spoiling a child is never the result of showing a child too much love. It is usually the consequence of giving a child things in place of love—things like leniency, lowered expectations or material possessions.”
3. Be involved in your child’s life.
"Being an involved parent takes time and is hard work, and it often means rethinking and rearranging your priorities. It frequently means sacrificing what you want to do for what your child needs you to do. Be there mentally as well as physically.”
4. Adapt your parenting to fit your child.
“Make sure your parenting keeps pace with your child’s development. You may wish you could slow down or freeze-frame your child’s life, but this is the last thing he wants. You may be fighting getting older, but all he wants is to grow up. The same drive for independence that is making your three-year-old say ‘no’ all the time is what’s motivating him to be toilet trained. The same intellectual growth spurt that is making your 13-year-old curious and inquisitive in the classroom also is making her argumentative at the dinner table.”
5. Establish and set rules.
“If you don’t manage your manage child’s behavior when he is young, he will have a hard time learning how to himself when he is older and you aren’t around. Any time of the day or night, you should always be able to answer these three questions: Where is my child? Who is with my child? What is my child doing? The rules your child has learned from you are going to shape the rules he applies to himself.”
6. Foster your child’s independence.
“Setting limits helps your child develop a sense of self-control. Encouraging independence helps her develop a sense of self-direction. To be successful in life, she’s going to need both. Accepting that it is normal for children to push for autonomy is absolutely key to effective parenting. Many parents mistakenly equate their child’s independence with rebelliousness or disobedience. Children push for independence because it is part of human nature to want to feel in control rather than to feel controlled by someone else.”
7. Be consistent.
“If your rules vary from day to day in an unpredictable fashion, or if you enforce them only intermittently, your child’s misbehavior is your fault, not his. Your most important disciplinary tool is consistency. Identify your non-negotiables. The more your authority is based on wisdom and not on power, the less your child will challenge it.”
8. Avoid harsh discipline.
“Of all the forms of punishment that parents use, the one with the worst side effects is physical punishment. Children who are spanked, hit or slapped are more prone to fighting with other children. They are more likely to be bullies and more likely to use aggression to solve disputes with others.”
9. Explain your rules and decisions.
“Good parents have expectations they want their child to live up to. Generally, parents overexplain to young children and underexplain to adolescents. What is obvious to you may not be evident to a 12-year-old. He doesn’t have the priorities, judgment or experience that you have.”
10. Treat your child with respect.
“The best way to get respectful treatment from your child is to treat him respectfully. You should give your child the same courtesies you would give to anyone else. Speak to him politely. Respect his opinion. Pay attention when he is speaking to you. Treat him kindly. Try to please him when you can. Children treat others the way their parents treat them. Your relationship with your child is the foundation for her relationships with others.”
For Laurence, Perfect Parents dont exist.But have those ones that are always trying to be the best that they can. And this, is the most sincere type of relationship that we will ever find!
